New on the Blog
- EP42: Sharp Thoughts with Cody Skillen
- Controlling posture…
What is postural control in martial art?
It starts in the crib….
Check out this video from last year on postural control and go by http://breakingbalance.com to pick up more knowledge today.
- Ep41: Women’s Self-Defense
- EP40: Being a martial artist
- A training abyss…
When you are no longer learning, it is very tough.
I write this article from a personal standpoint – I’ve been there with a system, and a teacher. It becomes like a bad relationship as resentment grows. It is common to say in gambling someone stayed at the table too long, usually resulting in the gambler losing money, when they should have simply stepped away from the table. They become invested psychologically.
This very often happens with students of martial arts. They stay at the table too long. This is not to say they have nothing else to learn but at a certain point the investment becomes so expensive, or it becomes difficult to square with life and general ethics or morals, they begin to confuse the relationship with the teacher for their own well-being. It starts out slow, and grows, and soon the student is staring at the abyss in training, wondering, feeling guilty for looking at other systems and teachers.
The whispering inside the head grows louder.
And then the abyss stares back at them.
It’s a daunting task to leave or take time off, especially after years of training in a system. Here’s a few tips I have found to step back from that abyss and create more longevity in training in a system so that the day doesn’t come, or if it does, you recognize it and can work to prevent it…or prepare for the inevitable.
1) Never sign up for a new school for more than a few months. Contracts are a common thing because people have to put food on the table. But when you are starting off, start slowly and only go a couple times a week. After a few months, if you want to do more – do more, but never sign for more than a few months at a time if you can. This way you never stay because of money, you stay because of training.
2) Avoid a personal relationship with a new teacher for a while. Avoid excessively hanging out, getting beers with or doing dinners with your new teacher. Other students is one thing, but the more you are able to avoid personal entanglements the beginning the more you will be able to tell the difference between friendship and teaching relationship.